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Barbara Rubel is the author of But I Didn't Say Goodbye: For parents and Professionals Helping Child Suicide Survivors.

Rubel wrote the 30 hour continuing education course book for nurses, Death, Dying and Bereavement: Providing Compassion During a Time of Need. To obtain information regarding Death, Dying, and Bereavement, click on "Death, Dying" above.

Rubel is also the co-author of the U.S. Department of Justice (OVCTTAC) Training Manual, Compassion Fatigue: Vicarious Trauma.

But I Didn't Say Goodbye . . .

Barbara Rubel, MA, BCETS, CBS has authored But I Didn't Say Goodbye, a landmark book for parents and professionals helping child suicide survivors. Rubel's best selling book is an extraordinary resource that comes from her own experience as a suicide survivor, parent, and bereavement specialist. The hands-on book benefits those who want to learn how to help a child after a sudden loss. The power of this book comes from the most frequently asked questions a bereaved child asks, and honest, respectful, age-appropriate answers from caring adults. Caregivers get intervention strategies, complete with bereavement referrals and recommended resources. But I Didn't Say Goodbye offers 9 brief chapters with a unique design. As each chapter ends, a worksheet with helpful discussion questions and activities begin. Adults get a head start by the ready-to-copy, interactive, non-threatening questions and activities wherein the child's thoughts & feelings are shared. This book will be your guide as you learn what to say to a child after a suicide.

About the Author

While pregnant with triplets, Barbara's father, a retired NYC police officer, took his life. Barbara's story was featured in the Emmy award winning PBS Documentary, Fatal Mistakes: Families Shattered by Suicide, narrated by Marriette Hartley. Barbara is a nationally known speaker at conferences and seminars offering a wide range of presentations on sudden loss, and crisis intervention. She has appeared on TV and radio, and has numerous articles appearing in periodicals and journals.

In Praise of But I Didn't Say Goodbye

	"This is an extraordinary resource to help children deal with the difficult often hidden and stigmatizing after effects of suicide. One that is honest and respectful of the child’s intelligence and resiliency. I strongly recommend it." Kenneth J. Doka, Ph.D., Professor of Gerontology, College of New Rochelle, NY, Senior Consultant, Hospice Foundation of America
	"A richly imaginative and innovative work that is solidly grounded and eminently readable. An invaluable resource in the study of suicidology." Rabbi Earl Grollman, D. H. L.; D.D., author with Max Malikow, Living When a Young Friend Commits Suicide
	". . . But I Didn’t Say Goodbye will be a wise informer, a nurturing guide and a welcomed friend for children, for those who walk with them, and for the grieving adults in their life." The Rev'd. Richard B. Gilbert, D.Min., BCC, CPBC, Executive Director, the World Pastoral Care Center, author, consultant, and speaker
	"But I Didn’t Say Goodbye is a wonderfully, new, refreshing and practical approach to working with children who are suffering the loss of a loved one due to suicide. Barbara Rubel takes a very difficult topic and creates a manageable path for parents and professionals to follow when helping the young suicide survivor." Helen Fitzgerald, author, The Grieving Child

Complete Contents for But I Didn't Say Goodbye

Acknowledgements · About the Author · Introduction: How this Book is Organized · How to Read This Book · A Note to the Professional · A Note to the Parent · Part 1: The Big Questions: The Worst Day · My Hidden Thoughts · Mom Tries To Explain Why · Grandma's Special Gift · The Next Morning · Lunch with Coach · Telling a Friend what Happened · Finding Support · A Note From Alex · Part 2: Bereavement Referrals: Suicide Awareness, Prevention & Survivor Support · Suicide Information & Education in Canada · Death Education & Grief Counseling · Crisis Intervention · Addictions · Camps for Grieving Children · Information on Depression · Grief Products on the Internet · Memorial Songs & Music ·Appendix A: Recommended Resources: Magazines, Newsletters & Reports · Mail Order Books, Videos & Audio Tapes · Books for Adult Survivors · Adult Books on Creativity & Writing to Heal · Books for Professionals · Suicide Prevention Books · Journals for Professionals · Books for Children Books for Teenagers · Crisis in the Schools: Resources for Educators · Articles of Interest

Format Information

But I Didn't Say Goodbye: For parents and professionals helping child suicide survivors · Publisher: Griefwork Center, Inc. · Soft 6" x 9" · Pages: 112pp · Publication Date: April 2000 · Prices: $14.95+$3.50 s/h. · ISBN 1-892906-00-7 · LC 99-96975 · Categories: Bereavement; Childcare; Psychology.

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