“The thread woven through Barbara’s books and coursebook is the significance of post-traumatic growth–meaning making, and building personal resilience.

Barbara’s resources give helping professionals the tools they need to help bereaved clients. As a leading thanatologist, her books focus on traumatic loss and mitigating the impact of job burnout, secondary traumatic stress, empathic strain, compassion fatigue, and vicarious trauma.


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But I Didn’t Say Goodbye:  Helping Families After a Suicide (2020)

Third Revised Updated Edition

  • WINNER of Living Now Book Award 2020
  • WINNER of  IndieReader Discovery Award 2020 

But I Didn’t Say Goodbye: Helping Families After a Suicide tells the story, from the perspective of an eleven-year-old boy, Alex, and his family, as they are rocked by suicide and reeling from the aftermath. Through Alex’s eyes, the reader sees the transformation of feelings after going through a suicide. New to the third edition, each chapter ends with Alex reflecting 10 years later on his experience, introducing family and friends in his recollections. Barbara Rubel has combined our modern academic theories of grieving, and the research that supports those theories, and then translated them into a readable story for anyone bereaved by suicide.

The revised edition is an evidence-informed and contemporary treatment of a devastating form of loss that uses a hypothetical case study to render it in human terms. Through the story, the reader will understand what losing someone to suicide might be like for a family, how to make meaning, and ways to experience personal growth. This book provides guidance and education for clinicians and families to help suicide loss survivors.

Part 1 offers a basic understanding of suicide postvention, complicated grief, mourning theories, and the impact on clinician survivors. Chapters have been updated, based on mourning models and the latest research. The chapters in Part 2 build upon one another from the day of the suicide to the anniversary. At the end of each chapter, there are follow-up questions to explore in counseling sessions, support groups, therapy sessions, or at home. At the end of each chapter, Alex, at the age of 21, reflects back on how his father’s death has changed his life, wounding him, but also helping him to grow.

Loss, Grief, and Bereavement: Helping Individuals Cope 4th Edition

This course contains essential information that nurses can use to help individuals, families, and communities cope with loss, grief, and bereavement, or reflect on issues and practices related to death. The course reviews the role of palliative and hospice care in providing the highest quality end of life care. Content on advance care planning helps nurses become better communicators with patients and fosters a better understanding of ethical issues surrounding end-of-life care. Updated content on religious beliefs, grief reactions to loss, suicide care, and communities responding to homicide or other traumatic death is also presented. The course examines the mourning process, including grief in children and adolescents, and the experiences of those suffering from compassion fatigue or vicarious trauma. Bereavement policies to manage grief in the workplace are also covered.

KEYS TO A GOOD LIFE: Wisdom to Unlock Your Power Within

Contributing Author

If you want to mitigate the impact of burnout, read, Keys to a Good life: Wisdom to Unlock Your Power Within. This resource is a collaboration of insights from people who have experienced transformation either through an outside circumstance or by an inward call for change. As a contributor, I shared a story, ideas, and lessons in order to guide you through your personal life journey. This handbook of wisdom reminds you that you have the power within to create the life of your dreams. Addressing everyday issues, 31 experts help you achieve work-life balance, prevent burnout and manage the stressors in your life.

Fresh Grief: Inspirational Stories

Contributing Author

The first year after you lose someone you love can be frightening, isolating, even bewildering at times. Sometimes you just feel totally lost. In this gentle grief support book, you will read articles written by many others who have walked the path of grief and loss. These contributors to the Open to Hope Foundation offer companionship and advice to help readers weather these first painful, rocky months when the tunnel of grief feels never-ending.

Thin Threads Stories – Grief & Renewal

Contributing Author

Barbara shares the story of her father’s suicide in this edition of Grief and Renewal. Other stories offer solace to those who have experienced the loss of their loved ones. They are real stories of life changing moments. With only 54 pages, this little gem is an easy read for those who are struggling with the stressors of loss.