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Intervention Strategies for Navigating Grief with a Religious/Spiritual Focus

By Barbara Rubel Grief, Memories
When your grief takes on a distinctively spiritual or religious hue, it becomes crucial to acknowledge and understand the unique contours it assumes. Identifying the presence of religious or spiritual reactions serves as a gateway to implementing personalized intervention strategies, offering solace, purpose, and fortitude. In the following exploration, we delve into a spectrum of compassionate approaches crafted to assist you in preserving your spiritual connection while gracefully maneuvering the…
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Coping Compassionately: Navigating the Intersection of Behavioral and Physical Grief Reactions

By Barbara Rubel Grief, Memories No Comments
Managing Behavioral Reactions Grieving is an intricate journey, and when behavioral reactions take center stage, understanding them as a form of communication is key. Behavioral reactions are a language of their own, expressing the intricate nuances of grief. As you recognize the potential for behavioral reactions to become unhealthy coping mechanisms to process grief, consider any of the following strategies: Facing Reminders. Transform avoidance into empowerment by proactively facing reminders…
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“Living Blue” – New Book by Barbara Rubel

By Barbara Rubel Law Enforcement, Vicarious trauma No Comments
Barbara Rubel's new book Living Blue is now available! Co-authored with Jason Palamara, a retired cold case homicide detective, it was published on December 6, 2023 and can be purchased on Amazon. The effects of vicarious trauma Living Blue has the power to change lives by offering a more complete understanding of the effects that vicarious trauma has on law enforcement personnel and their families. The book is based on evidence…
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Managing Emotional and Cognitive Grief Reactions Around the Holidays

By Barbara Rubel Grief, Holidays No Comments
Strategies for emotional pain When intense grief and emotional pain is too much to manage around the holidays, consider any of the following strategies: Metaphors. Use a metaphor analogy to describe your experience. These statements can help you describe the intensity of your loss. Discover the Power of Writing: Write about your thoughts and feelings in a journal. Write poetry or a letter to the person who died. Keep a…
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International Stress Awareness Day

By Barbara Rubel First Responder Stress, First Responders, Law Enforcement, Stress, Work-Family Conflict No Comments
International Stress Awareness Day is the first Wednesday in November Would you recommend your profession to others? High stress occupations are EMT, 911 operators, military, medical, firefighters, and police officers. No matter what your job is, your reaction to stress is a risk factor for the development of depression. Mental strain can make you feel unsafe both at work and at home. If you are a first responder, you know…
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Thwarted Belongingness, Perceived Burdensomeness, Hopelessness, and Cognitive Distortions for First Responders

By Barbara Rubel First Responders, Mental Health, Suicide Prevention No Comments
For all first responders whether law enforcement, emergency medical personnel or paramedics, or firefighters, there is a connection or link between thwarted belongingness, perceived burdensomeness, hopelessness, and cognitive distortions. Thwarted Belongingness According to Thomas Joiner's interpersonal psychological theory of suicide, feeling like you don’t belong and that you are a burden can trigger suicidal thoughts. When a person lacks deep relationships with those around them, they are lonely and socially…
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Encouraging Law Enforcement to Seek Mental Health Support

By Barbara Rubel First Responders, Law Enforcement, Mental Health No Comments
LEOs are not asking for mental health support. Let’s work on changing that. Law enforcement officers (LEOs) face common mental health issues and often believe that treatment is effective, but professionally risky. They may fear a fitness for duty evaluation (FFDE) if they self-disclose that they need the help of a mental health professional. They may feel anxious about the possibility of losing their job. Masculinity within police culture can…
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How Family and Friends Can Support a First Responder’s Mental Health

By Barbara Rubel First Responders, Law Enforcement, Mental Health, Work-Life Balance No Comments
Synergy When a first responder eats healthily at home and gets eight hours sleep, and works on their physical health, their job is positively impacted.  By the same token, when they are satisfied with their job and feel supported in their role, their family life is positively impacted. Whether you are a friend or family member, you can help them find synergy in their life and impact their well-being. Synergy…
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Barbara Rubel Receives Influential Businesswoman Award

By Barbara Rubel First Responders No Comments
For the 8th year Acquisition International (AI) has hosted the Influential Businesswomen awards to celebrate all the winners and their accomplishments. Every year Acquisition International showcases the most exceptional and inspirational female business leaders from around the world by honoring and highlighting their achievements. Acquisition International is proud to announce that Barbara Rubel has been awarded: Most Influential First Responder Keynote Speaker 2023 (USA): Barbara Rubel ...in the Influential Businesswoman…
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Barbara Rubel Won a GHP Mental Health Award for the 2nd Year!

By Barbara Rubel Mental Health, Trauma Informed, Vicarious trauma No Comments
The GHP Mental Health Awards once again showcased the best of the best in the mental health industry in 2023. Their novel award approach welcomes all companies in all shapes and sizes. They do not prioritize their winners based on demographics, and instead aim to research, analyze, and shortlist all companies in this industry based on their merits. The final decisions have now been reached. From her recent nomination, they…
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Addressing Psychological Risks of Law Enforcement Officers: Mental Health at Work

By Barbara Rubel First Responders, Law Enforcement, Mental Health No Comments
I created a vicious trauma-approach that puts the law enforcement officer (LEO) at the center of issues related to well-being and suicide prevention. I care deeply about preventing suicide in LEOs as my father, a sergeant, died by suicide after he retired. I found meaning in his suicide by focusing on mental health, wellness and resilience in first responders. Vicarious-trauma informed practices are policies that focus on ways to lessen…
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How to Avoid Caregiver Burnout

By Barbara Rubel Burnout, Caregiving No Comments
Tips for Caring for Yourself While Caring for Others What happens when the helper does not get help? These empathetic and compassionate caregivers are struggling with burnout. The causes of burnout for caregivers are different than the causes of burnout for those in other fields, although the symptoms are very similar. Physical exhaustion is shown through their aches and pains and the need for rest. Mental exhaustion is shown through…
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4 Symptoms of Burnout You Should Be Aware of

By Barbara Rubel Burnout, Mental Health, Work-Life Balance No Comments
You may not be aware that you are suffering from burnout. We have all gone through a traumatic experience dealing with the COVID-19 pandemic. Is it burnout? Is it grief? Or are we all just having a really bad hair day? Now that you are getting back to your usual routine, you may still feel exhausted and overwhelmed by the simplest of tasks. You might get easily angry or frustrated.…
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How to Promote Recovery from Burnout

By Barbara Rubel Burnout, Mental Health No Comments
Our previous post is on the symptoms and signs of burnout to help you recognize if you display some of those symptoms and what your risk for burnout might be. For individuals who have a high risk or are already dealing with severe burnout symptoms, here are some things you can start doing now to recover and achieve a better balance in your life. How to Recover from Burnout Create…
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